Premature Ejaculation: Secrets Revealed

The most common sexual dysfunction in men younger than 40 years is premature ejaculation (PE). Premature ejaculation is defined as a condition when the occurrence of ejaculation takes place before or soon after penetration. Young men and those beginning new relationships are likely candidates for P.E. About 29 percent of men repeatedly experience P.E. Additional stress can be caused after this first encounter, because the man might be self-conscious and feel he needs to perform better. If it continues repeatedly, though, there might be a problem. Most men experience premature ejaculation at

least once in their lives. Often young men experience "premature ejaculation” during their first sexual encounters, but eventually learn ejaculatory control. Because there is great variability in both how long it takes men to ejaculate and how long both partners want sex to last. According to the Journal of Sex Research, researchers found that men who suffer from P.E. had an average intravaginal ejaculatory latency time of 1.8 minutes, compared to 7.3 minutes by men who did not.

Sexual arousal is a four-phase process. In the Excitement Phase, breathing deepens and erection begins. In the Plateau Stage, erection becomes full and you feel highly aroused. When arousal builds to a certain point, the next phase occurs, Orgasm with Ejaculation. Then during the Resolution Phase, breathing returns to normal and erection subsides. The key to ejaculatory control is to extend the Plateau Phase, to maintain arousal without triggering Orgasm and Ejaculation. There is often a temptation for men to attempt penetration as soon as they have a partial erection, just in case they lose it. The anxiety and movement involved is often enough to cause them to lose anyway, and they would have done better if they had waited until their feelings of sexual tension and arousal had increased, and they had developed a full erection. Even if they manage penetration, fears that they are going to lose their erection will likely result in just that happening. Alternatively, they may try thrusting rapidly or sexually fantasising, which may lead to premature ejaculation. It is important to take your time, as hurrying often results in disappointment. Take time in cuddling and pleasuring each other before trying penetration. Whatever form of pleasuring is acceptable to you both is OK. Stroking the penis, or having it stroked by a partner, may help a man get a firm erection more effectively. Both men and women often enjoy being stroked and caressed. Start with light touch, just with the fingertips, along the back and sides, down the back of the legs and neck. Don't just rush to touch breasts or genitalia, although you may both want to do this later.