Let Go of Feeling Like a Victim - Identifying when we don't feel good about how we are being treated is healthy; it is also wonderful to be able to protect and take care of ourselves (after all, who else can care for us as well as we can care for ourselves)--but getting stuck feeling like a victim can keep us in a powerless, hopeless place and keep us from taking control and moving forward with our lives as parents, and as individuals. In order to get on with building our families, single parents need to let go of feeling like a victim. Yes, you very well may have been victimized and I do not want to make light of that experience. Many of us have had all sorts of horrible experiences that we neither deserved, nor invited. But it can be so easy to get trapped into looking around and wondering why we have got it so badly, and why we are a single parent, and it can keep us from taking charge and moving on.